Twin Flame Stages – the Introduction
Twin Flames or ‘twin souls’ is a term used to describe our mirror soul or “other half”. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato first proposed the idea of souls split in two (not to be confused with twin soul separation) and that these souls are continually looking for their counterpart.
Now, it is important that each ‘twin’ is a whole soul, not half a soul as implied by “other half”. Connection with your twin flame is a sacred bond that not many experience in their lives. This connection occurs when we are fully accountable and responsible for our own existence. Finding your Twin Flame is not about finding completion but finding someone else who is also already self-sufficient to commune with in order to create something much larger than the both of you. The possibilities of what can be created by this powerful union is infinite.
During our life span, we will interact with hundreds of thousands of people and a tiny percentage of that population will be people with whom we have intense (in some cases, intimate) relationships with. Most of these relationships will serve us in the form of teaching us a lesson or providing situations from which we can learn from and we call those ‘karmic relationships’. They are simply lessons to be learned that help to prepare us in our journey of becoming our higher self. In short, each flame is a soul that has been given the opportunity to grow and expand in our consciousness before finding one another again.
Although every twin flame reunion is unique and extraordinary,there are some consistent patterns that help us to better characterize twin flame relationships.
Twin Flame Stages: Stage 1 – Preparation
In the first stage, you may have a strange sensation that someone who is your perfect fit is ‘out there’, but you don’t know how to find them or when they’ll appear in your life. When we are finally ready to manifest our twin flame into our lives, our body frequency changes and our souls emit a deep and resonant call.
During this stage you may prepare for meeting your twin by learning how to love yourself unconditionally, and to also treat yourself with compassion and forgiveness. Without being complete on our own, it is impossible to be able to truly and completely love and care for someone else. If we do not have the skills to be able to do it for ourselves, how can we imagine that we could support someone else’s dreams? That’s why we caution not to think of your twin flame as a completion aspect to your life but as a perk and a benefit, a clear sign that you are moving toward your greater purpose in life.
“Generosity is the most natural outward expression of an inner attitude of compassion and loving-kindness.” – His Holiness the Dalai Lama
It can be difficult to find your twin flame – three ways you can improve manifesting your twin flame into your reality are:
Twin Flame Stages: Stage 2 – Recognition
When you meet your twin flame, you will have the feeling the you already know the other a deep level, a level of matched values and beliefs. Don’t expect that your twin flame will reflect the exact type of person you want to be with. This is not about matching ideas in your head as much as matching desires, wants and needs of your soul. so, to have this type of emotional and energetic connection indicates the start of an incredibly meaningful relationship.
On a physical and spiritual level, you’ll feel your heart chakra open and both flames will begin to merge. The feelings are profound feelings of joy, excitement, anxiety, and a sense of oneness with the universe. You may sense that this person will have a huge impact on your life even though you don’t know them very well yet.
After the initial attraction, you may find yourself in a “perfect” relationship for a short period of time. This short period helps to carry you through the more difficult phases – you glimpse how wonderful you and your partner can be together.
Twin Flame Stages: Stage 3 – Twin Flame Separation
This is the most difficult part of all – the twin flame separation is painful but a necessary stage of twin flame relationships. In this stage, all the negativity, fear, attachment and other feelings surface.
While it seems like an incredibly negative process, it’s also one of growth and understanding. You’ll learn about each other, but most of all, about yourself.
In this stage, their may be frequent arguments and disagreements over small things. These are generally caused by a lack of communication and an inability for one or both of you to express yourselves and to understand the powerful emotions you are going through. You’ll come out of this stage with more patience, love and understanding for yourselves and each other.
Usually, during this stage the Runner and the Chaser will appear. In most twin flame relationships, one of the souls will have a tendency to want to run and hide from these powerful feelings (the Runner) and the other person – the Chaser – usually is more spiritually self-aware.
The Chaser is usually the one who wants to find resolution and chooses to pursue the person and issue until a solution is found. This twin flame usually wants to know if there is commitment or not to the relationship, and whether or not they can move forward in union.
The Runner is usually the partner with more ‘baggage’ or ties to the past. This partner is not always guaranteed to pull through to see the brighter light of the relationship. Removing obstacles from our lives in a very important but sometimes a very painful and difficult process to go through and not everyone is ready to be confronted by the past. Both parties should be very careful in how they approach each other during this period.
If these twins can find a common ground, forgive and attempt to forget and makes amends, this union can have long-lasting effects. Once this bond is cemented in trust, honesty, and reliance, there is no telling what can come of this union.
While some twin flame relationships are strengthened by this experience, others may fall apart and experience true twin soul separation. This is dependent on the maturity of each partner’s soul. Twin soul separation is extremely painful, but it’s a part of the process of maturing each soul.
Twin Flame Stages: Stage 4 – Twin Flame Reunion
This is when the souls of the twin flames unite again. The twin flame reunion will generally come after both parties have worn the other out. The Chaser stops chasing and the Runner must decide if he/she is willing to stay or not. They are tired of fighting, tired of talking, and appreciate the overall silence. If the connection is real, the facades, ego, and other emotional clutter will peel away and you will again see each other but with new eyes. And in order to grow spiritually, one must learn to accept and forgive.
This happens first on a physical level and then later on a spiritual level as well.
You may find that you have a strange understanding of each other’s thoughts and needs, sometimes called twin flame telepathy. This can sometimes feel like your twin flame already knows what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling before speaking with them.
Twin Flame Stages: Stage 5 – Oneness
At this stage, the twin’s emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies all reach full maturity. The ego dies and a complete spiritual awakening, or rebirth, occurs for both of the twin souls. This is a feeling of divine love and oneness with the universe. Both twins have awakened and have come together, and now feel an unconditional love towards each other and themselves.
Twin Flame Prayer
Sometimes when going through the various twin flame stages, it helps to recite a twin flame prayer. There are a few different prayers that I really like and that cover the various stages – everything from a prayer that helps you find your other half to a twin flame prayer for the chaser.
Preparation Before Reciting a Twin Flame Prayer
Before reciting a twin flame prayer, make sure to prepare yourself and your surrounding. Sit in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed, and make sure to turn off all distractions (TV, phone ringer, etc.).
Sit in a posture that reflects dignity and compassion, close your eyes gently, and take 10 deep slow breaths. Picture your twin flame while breathing.
Now recite the prayer that best reflects your needs twice per day, once in the morning and once in the evening.
Twin Flame Prayer – Find Your Twin Flame
In the name of my Higher Self and the Higher Self of my beloved twin flame
I call to the Holy One for the sealing of our hearts as one
For the completion of our holy purpose
Wherever my twin flame is, cut him/her free.
Free us now to fulfill the divine plan
Unify us and draw us together
We thank you and submit ourselves to your holy will.